DEALING WITH ANGER

DEALING WITH ANGER 

"That’s What happens, when you’re angry at people. You make them part of your life. "

                                      --Garrison Keillor 

OUR PROBLEMS WITH ANGER

OUR problems with anger and our problems in relationships go hand in hand. 

Some of us have held back our anger, which led to resentment of our loved ones.

Some of us have indulged our anger and become abusive.

Some of us have been so frightened of anger that we closed off the dialogue in our relationships, when angry feelings came out. 

Some of us have wasted our energy, by focusing anger on people who weren't really ‘ important to us.

Do we truly want them to become so important? Yet, perhaps the important relationships got frozen, because we weren't open and respectful with our anger.

It isn't possible to be close to someone, without being angry at times. 

We let our loved ones be part of our lives, by feeling our anger, when it is there and expressing it openly, directly, and respectfully to them or by hearing them, when they are angry. Then, with dialogue, we can let it go. 

WE SHOULD DO

I will be aware of those people I am making important in my life and will grow in dealing with my anger. 

HOW TO CONTROL ANGER?

     

HOW TO CONTROL ANGER?

ANGER can multiply our difficulties in many situations

All of us can look back and remember times when we only made our problems worse, because we stepped on the gas and lost all ability to use the brakes.

We can learn to manage our feelings and use them well. This doesn't happen overnight.
  

ANGER DAMAGES THE SITUATION    

We would do well to recall how energized we have felt, when we let out anger fly and how much we loved that energy at the moment. Only later did we face the damage we caused.

Saying we are sorry isn’t enough- We must also be willing to take on the harder task of changing our behavior.

ANGER TO CONTROL

When we accept that we love the power and the energy of our anger and aggression, we can begin to rein it, rather than be ruled by it.

"Getting angry can sometimes be like leaping into a wonderfully responsive sports car, gunning the motor, taking off at high speed and then discovering the brakes are out of order."                                                                                                                                   -Maggie Scarf

When anger rises, think of the consequences!

Say to yourself, I will not indulge in the pleasure of anger allowed to run wild.

DEVELOP A CALM MIND FOR POSITIVE PROGRESS

Be patient with everybody, however particularly with yourself….. don't be frustrated by your imperfections,however forever get up with recent bravery.

How are you to be patient in dealing with your neighbor’s faults, if you are impatient in dealing with your own?

They who are worried by their own shortcomings will not correct them.

All positive progress comes from a calm and peaceful mind.

"Be Patient with everyone"

                         -St. Francis de Sales